#WobblesWednesday – Kickin’ butt!

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(This has been me this morning, gingerly stepping on the scales)

Kate at nakedmum.co.uk is having a little blogging break so I’m hosting #WobblesWednesday for the next couple of weeks for her.

It’s an online support group – founded by Kate at the start of this year – to support bloggers wanting to lose weight and achieve a healthier lifestyle. We share tips, comments and support, anyone is welcome to join. Please link up below and tweet using the #WobblesWednesday.

I’ve had a few weeks off, to deal with a family matter – you can read about it here – hopefully we are over the worst and I’m back, kicking my big butt…well, up the butt and motivating myself again.

I wouldn’t say I’ve been an absolute piggie during the last few weeks but I am emotional eater and, boy, have I been through some emotions! Speed-eating Maltesers had become a speciality, not any more.

I’ve managed to gain 2lb since I last weighed myself, some might be water, most of it is Maltesers(!) but there is still a loss of 1stone 3lb since January.

My new motivation has kicked off with a two-week trial of Aspire, a calorie-burning drink. I started on these yesterday and (a few burps aside, sorry) all is going well. I’m looking forward to seeing how they help me.

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The last few weeks have been so horribly tense that I haven’t been relaxed enough to listen to the slimpods, again renewed motivation is stepping in from this week.

There is only one person who can change me and that is me. I started googling things like Lighter Life and Cambridge diets on Monday, before administering that proverbial kick-up-the-butt. With the summer holidays looming, I need a positive mindset for the children, they do not need a Mumma draining herself with a liquid-only diet.

So, that’s me, putting my hand up and saying “hello, I’m back and how is everyone?”.

The linky – if I’ve done it right – is below, please leave a comment/your post with how your week has gone. I am so grateful for the support over the last few weeks, it’s time to “pay it forward”.

(Next week’s post will be from a new site – ditchflabgetfab.com, the autism blog and this blog are moving over, being hosted by Overblog, it’s all a tad exciting!) if you’re reading this by email, please make sure you subscribe to continue to receive posts.

Anyway, that’s me, I’m looking forward to seeing how everyone’s week has been, thanks for reading and for the support Jx 😘

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#WobblesWednesday – Stacking up the dominoes …

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It’s Wednesday and I’m linking up with Kate at nakedmum.co.uk, sharing how my last week has gone with the other ladies on our journeys to a healthier lifestyle.

The picture above sums up my week really, there’s a domino for my autistic daughter, my high functioning autistic son, my husband, my family member who has been diagnosed with something serious, money etc etc. It goes on, one flick of the finger and it would all topple. But I won’t let it.
Life is all about taking the rough with the smooth, the highs and the lows.

But, unlike previously, I haven’t sought solace in a chocolate bar and I’ve lost a lb this week. Despite a meal out for my daughter for her birthday, despite the birthday cake which is still in the fridge.

Onwards and downwards is the mantra now. I’m looking forward to receiving and starting with the Slimpod CDs when they arrive later on this week and seeing how everyone else has got on.

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#WobblesWednesday – Little (?) Miss Forgetful

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Oh blimey, I think my lack of sleep is catching up with me. I forgot to weigh myself this morning, genuinely. I remembered on the school run and that was obviously too late. Similarly, I forgot to get guinea pig food yesterday as the little squeakers will remind me shortly. Added to list for later.

I don’t think the week has gone too badly, I seem newly motivated after last week’s blip and hopefully that will reflect in next week’s figures.

I’m also waiting for my Thinking Slimmer CDs to arrive and establishing a routine whereby I listen to them daily. I’ve heard very positive feedback about them from Jane and Shell and hopefully they’ll be a useful tool.

If I can remember them (!), my top tips for the week would be:

Make sure there’s healthy options in the fridges and cupboards. Chopped up carrots, peppers, oat cakes etc.

Feeling peck ish? Have a cup of coffee/glass of sugar-free squash and then decide.

Linking up with Kate at nakedmum.co.uk, and looking forward to reading how everyone else has done.

Now, I’m off to write some lists….

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#WobblesWednesday – dodging those storm clouds!

I very nearly didn’t link up with #WobblesWednesday this week, a support network started in January by Kate at nakedmum.co.uk.

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Why? Because for the first time this year I have gained since last week:

1lb

Making my loss so far this year: 1stone 4lbs.

But the support network is such that, this happens, we all offer advice and support, it’s a little community.

I could blame it on water retention leading up to time of the month, I could sit here and say I was forced to eat those carb-heavy foods at the weekend. But I wasn’t and one thing I’ve always said to myself is to be honest in my blogs.

It was a lack of willpower and motivation, pure and simple. No one to blame but me.

BUT…

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Taking a positive speel:

There’s an overall loss since the beginning of the year, am I going to let my first gain get me down? No! The countdown to next week starts here and now.

We are all healthy, yes my children might be registered disabled (autism) but we can all laugh and smile, especially in the better weather. I couldn’t be prouder of my children, they overcome so much every day.

I have a lot to be grateful for and I know it.

Looking forward to reading everyone else’s posts. Jx

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#WobblesWednesday – if “You are what you eat”, what am I?

It’s Wednesday once again and I’m linking up with Kate at nakedmum.co.uk for Wobbles Wednesday.

I’ll start with the good news:

1lb lost this week, making my total to date this year of 1stone, 5lbs.

It will be good to get over that stone-and-a-half hurdle and head downwards.

This picture kind-of sums up my week:

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It’s been a case of predominantly the good stuff (the fruits, the veg, the proteins) but a smidgen of the not-so-good creeping in..but only just, and unlike before when I’d want to devour a whole swarm/nest/herd (?) of Freddo’s, one will do.

Thankfully it’s proving to be an easier week than last week but the occasional little prod comes along and threatens to knock me off the tightrope of life, I’m not letting it though.

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My daughter is 9 in just under 3 weeks and I guess I’m thankful that she won’t be aware enough to buy-in to the body-image culture that is everywhere. Celebrities are scrutinised if they’ve lost weight/gained weight or if they look older/suddenly younger. A prime example is the secondary school I walk past each day, I can definitely tell which celebrities both the girls and boys emulate.

I guess the point I’m making is that happiness comes from within, and that’s why I’m on this journey.

I’m looking forward to reading the other #WobblesWednesday posts.

I’m going to end with a cheeky plug for the Brilliance in Blogging awards,the autism blog is shortlisted in the Commentary section, a vote would be appreciated please. Click here to go to the voting forms, a name and email address is all the information required.

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#WobblesWednesday – we’re getting there

It’s Wednesday and I’m linking up with Kate over at nakedmum for Wobbles Wednesday, something that I’m so grateful she initiated for the support it brings.

I wasn’t a very happy J last week. I had too many thoughts running through my mind, but not wanting to necessary blog them and that reflected in last week’s post. It probably took until Friday before I began to feel brighter and that wasn’t good, I need to be on an even keel for the children.

This week is definitely better. My daughter went to a birthday party at a special needs playground on Saturday, party food everywhere. Lots of temptation but I stuck to the cucumber sticks that everyone else seems to be avoiding and that felt good. Later on, everyone else had their usual Saturday evening fish and chips, I ate more cucumber!

Yesterday we had one of the appointments I’d been so worried about last week, there’s another one tomorrow. We received a diagnosis yesterday and I now have two children on the autistic spectrum, one at either end. One classed as “severe”, the other “high functioning”. Both looking to me to be their constant, always there, always reliable… renewed motivation you bet!

I’ve also had a chat with the lady behind Thinking Slimmer and I’ll be starting that soon. I know of a couple of people who are already finding it very helpful and I’m hoping it will do the same for me.

I’m also over-joyed that the autism blog has been short-listed in the Commentary section for the “Brilliance in Blogging awards”, if you could spare a vote here and get me into the next stage, I’d be well chuffed!

It’s been a real rollercoaster week, so much so that I nearly forgot to jump on the scales this morning. But I did and it’s another lb off.

This year’s total to date: 1stone 4lbs.

I’ll be tallying up with Losing It For Autism on 3rd May, with a once-monthly donation (£ for lb) and update on the autism blog, donations always welcomed!

My top tips:

If you’re feeling peck-ish, set yourself a time limit and then decide if you’re still hungry once that time has elapsed. More often than not, it will have passed.

Always make sure that there’s some chopped up peppers/veg in the fridge. Nice and cooling in the warmer weather too.

Looking forward to reading how everyone else is doing. I’d like to report more than one lb off next week if possible.

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#WobblesWednesday – putting my hand up

It’s Wednesday and I’m linking up with #WobblesWednesday , devised by Kate at nakedmum.co.uk

I’m struggling at the moment, I’m putting my hand up like an eager school child and admitting it.

Here’s why:

I don’t trust my scales anymore. I had two positions in the house where I could get a constant reading..not any more. One place says 3lbs off, another says 2lbs on. Help from an external source with reliable scales is needed, I’m looking up Slimming World classes as soon as I’ve finished this post.

My children both have important appointments next week, one is to determine whether I have a second child on the autistic spectrum – and it won’t change a thing for us as a family if we do, it means he’ll be able to access support – the other is a medical appointment for D, one that is potentially intrusive and one I’m not mentioning publicly.

It’s also PMT time, I’m feeling crotchety, grumpy and frankly saddened at the state of the world when some group decides to blast marathon runners and spectators to bits, people who were running raising money for charities. There’s also the tragic news story from Lowestoft, in this age of social media news, theories and views travel too fast.

So, while I’m a bit miffed that I can’t trust my scales and therefore either say *yay* or *boo* or a *shrug*, in the wider scheme of things I am still lighter than at the start of the year, my Losing it for Autism is 19% of target already and we start with reliable readings from Friday.

I’m so grateful to everyone that has contributed so far, will do a once-monthly round-up on the autism blog.

My top tips this week:

Chances are if you feel hungry between meals, you’re not hungry, but thirsty. Have a drink of water/squash/coffee and then decide.

Coco Pops are my evening nibble of choice, little bowlful with no milk, takes absolutely ages to eat – especially with my long nails.

Remember the tortoise and the hare -it’s all very well these diets where you can lose half a stone a week, but are they sustainable and how much is water?

So, in a strange way I’m looking forward to the extra guidance and support that Slimming World will bring, not forgetting the more reliable scales readings. I do appreciate the support on here every Wednesday too…very much.

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#WobblesWednesday – setting myself a challenge

It’s April, it’s Autism Awareness month and I’m upping the stakes.

I’m linking my weight loss journey with my wish to make some money for @Autism (The National Autistic Society).

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I’ve set up a JustGiving account and I’ll be matching lbs for £. My target is £500, not that I have 500 lbs to lose but it seemed a reasonable target for the next year (until World Autism Day, 2nd April 2014).

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Timing-wise I wish I was starting this next week as I’ve stayed the same, no loss and no gain. I’m surprised there wasn’t a gain what with Easter goodies and having the weekend off…but, it’s back to it from today. Focussing on what-I-know-works-for-me, upping the protein and veg intake, trying to resist the chocolate goodies.

We had a lovely day out at Legoland on Saturday, I packed plenty of food for the children as they like their own food, their own plates etc, unwisely thinking I’d be able to find a healthy option on sale. Wrong! I ended up chomping a cheeseburger (nice though it was) but so expensive too. £5.95 for a children’s meal as I wanted the smaller portion.

Renewed vigour from me. I’ll be updating my autism blog every month on the 3rd and continuing with #WobblesWednesday weekly – I need to, things have gone a bit more public!

Linking up with Kate on thin ice and the other ladies, without their weekly support I wouldn’t even be contemplating this.

Good luck for the week ahead, below are my children, take a look at this post to read why photos can be deceptive.

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Boots Feel Good Forum – online and on the radio

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Age is just a number, right? But sometimes women of *ahem* a certain age might feel that they need some extra help and tips to deal with signs of ageing.

I’ll hold my hand up gingerly and say “I am now at that age” and I was therefore asked by Mumsnet to give my views on an initiative that they’re working on in conjunction with Boots – a very familiar and trusted name in every shopping area.

Here’s some details:
Mumsnet is working on a new project with Boots called the Feel Good Forum (click on the link for more details) – this is designed to “inspire you to take control of you and your family’s health and wellbeing. From building your body confidence and helping you get the best night’s sleep through to tackling anti-ageing and explaining the latest beauty advice”.

The main part of this is a series of weekly radio shows broadcast on Sunday evenings on Real Radio and Smooth Radio. The show is hosted by Kate Thornton and each week features experts on particular topics. Broadcast times: on Real Radio from 7-8pm and Smooth Radio from 8-9pm.”

I’ve listened to two shows and found them both really interesting. Kate Thornton really interacts with the experts, offering her own views and insights and it’s very much audience-focused with the experts answering questions from callers and those already posed on the forum (which is open 24/7 to post questions).

The first show focused on “Anti-ageing, reducing the appearance of wrinkles and what causes them”. Experts in the studio were a dermatologist and a psychologist, with an expert from Boots Opticians on the phone.

They went through questions from callers and from the forum, questions that many women will identity with.

Here’s a couple of examples:

A 27 year old woman had noticed fine lines around her eyes when she smiles, is there anything she can do?

The experts were unanimous in that she shouldn’t stop smiling! Mild smile – or laughter lines – show a positive attitude and those features that an individual is conscious of are not necessarily noticed by someone else on a happy, welcoming smiling face.

However lines can (and do) get worse with sun exposure so protection of the skin with a UVA-absorbing day cream with SPF15 is essential, even in this country, even on a cloudy day as there are still 30-40% rays coming through.
Reflective make-up will also help draw attention away from the area. Choose light make-up not make-up that sits in any lines and gain confidence from knowing that you are taking care of yourself.

She was also advised to wear protective sunglasses. Sunglasses can be seen as a fashion statement but they serve a purpose, protecting the eyes from harmful UV rays which cause damage to eyes and the skin around the eyes. Sunglasses should not just be tinted lenses and state on any label/tag that they have UV protection in the lenses.

Another question from the forum asked whether it was necessary to have cupboards full of toner, cleanser, moisturiser, exfoliator/body scrub/sun screens etc. A very familiar scenario!

The answer is simplify! First, find out your skin tone – whether normal/oily or combination – Boots skin care advisors would be able to help and offer impartial advice as to skin type and best products.

The dermatologist then advised that once the skin was cleansed (using a cream cleanser for dry skin, an oil-reducing cleanser for oily/combination) then a serum should be used as a base, with a day cream on top.

At nighttime, again cleanse your skin, then use a good night cream containing anti-oxidants as the skin repairs and moisturises itself better at night.

The UVA and UVB elements in skin-care were explained – something I’d always wondered about.

UVA – think of the “A” as “anti-Ageing”, so a cream to be used all year around. The sunlight reflects through windows and glass etc, these products will contain collagen and elastin.

UVB – “B” is for “(anti)-Burning” so a preventative cream in sunnier weather.

Lots of different scenarios discussed but the main advice being:

Look after your skin with SPF15 day creams and a suitable repairing night cream.

Keep smiling, if you act as though you’re confident, this will be mirrored in how others behave towards you.

The show concluded with the experts top tips: from the dermatologist;

If you are a smoker, stop, if you’re not, don’t start. Smoking can age your looks by between 15-20 years;

Use the SPF15 day cream all year round.

And from the psychologist:

Think positive, if you’re having a negative thought, turn it around, be constructive, made it a positive.

Don’t become obsessed with numbers, don’t let it dictate how happy you are and start concentrating on things you can control.

Change the things that need to be changed, don’t sit around and complain and let’s all pick battles we can win.

That was Show 1 and I felt like I learnt quite a bit with regards to the simplification of products, the need for a day cream and the importance of sunglasses.

Show 2 focused on skin conditions and hair care.

Again, a sample of questions:

Jean has mid-length very fine and fly-away hair, she’s finding serums leave her hair lank and sticky, what products can improve her hair?

The hair expert suggested using spray-in conditioner on the ends with lightweight volume mousse/conditioner blow dried into the hair. As regards to serums, a pea-sized amount is enough to use, rubbing it into your hands first and then passing over the hair.

Waxes can be sticky and heavy so the trick is to start with a smaller amount, rubbing it into hands first to get the wax warm so it melts and it can then be evenly distributed.

Another question was one I could REALLY identify with:

The woman’s children didn’t sleep, she has ashen skin and dark circles. She feels like she’s really aged, how can she perk up her complexion despite a lack of sleep?

The dermatologist said that this was a very familiar issue for women with children, sleep is the key to a good complexion but when sleep is limited, it’s about using products with ingredients which will have an impact on the skin.

Using a product with built-in sunscreen during the day will really help, but at night it’s using products with Rectinoid in which will benefit – a module derived from vitamin A.

Dark circles occur as skin around the eyes is thin, smiling etc crinkles up the muscles so light-reflective eye concealer will help – eg Boots No 7 Youthful Eye Serum. As with all skin/body care products, results don’t happen overnight so allow 6-8 weeks to see the benefits.

Another question from the forum concerning thinning hair and hair loss. Something that seems to be a taboo amongst females.

Some hair loss can be do to age and hormones playing a part, but what can be done?

The dermatologist recommended a conversation with a pharmacy member of staff. Hair extensions do play a part in hair damage but after pregnancy is when women commonly notice a change in their hair. Boots sell nutritional produces with a hair care supplement and Regaine for Women was also recommended.

There are products that can help conceal the effects of hair loss – Nanogen hair fibres for example, which come in various hair colours and can be sprinkled on and will lock to the hair. Available over the counter.

As before, the show concluded with experts top tips.

From the hair expert:

On finding the best hair salon for you, look for the best-looking salon as this shows the owner has invested in it, ask for a free consultation, ask plenty of questions of the stylist and if you’re not happy that you’ve connected, ask for a business card and say thank you. A good tip for a get-out clause. But if you’re happy with their answers, then you’re halfway there.

As summer is coming (maybe!), keep your hair covered with a hat or a scarf, the sun is very damaging to hair.

If your hair is jaw-length, that means the hair at the ends is 4 years old. Keep the ends in good condition – as they’re older than the hair at the roots – so use conditioner from the mid to end length and have a trim every 6-8 weeks.

And from the dermatologist:

Exfoliate regularly, this creates a smooth, light surface that reflects beautifully, making sure that the products you put on afterwards penetrate the skin well.

Protect your skin – you only get one – apply sunscreen on a daily basis and that will offset a lot of changes associated with ageing.

Be smart with your money, learn about skin care ingredients, products that stay on/soak into the skin will have more of an impact than those that wash off.

I enjoyed listening to the two shows, I felt like I’d learnt quite a bit and there was some good music played too.

Something I’ll be listening to again, age might be just a number but any tips learnt to help with growing old gently are welcomed!

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A slight slip-up

A slightly guilty poem:

“Oh I don’t know,
I look at my flabby bits and I know they have to go,
Or at least diminish.

I don’t want to be in a magazine
With the world’s largest backside.
I’ve been dieting since January
And it’s now not so wide.

So why, oh why
Have I just had some chocolate?
Because it made me feel calmer
But now I feel like I should scold.
“A little of what you fancy does you good”
I’ve been told.

I didn’t have it all, I had three bits out of six.
I can still taste the chocolate, I’ve had my “fix”.
That chocolate was meant to be had on my birthday,
Get over it J, tomorrow is a new day.

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