It wasn’t meant to be …

Copied over from the autism site, apologies if you’re reading this twice:

A month ago I was practically burbling over with excitement:

D was a day away from celebrating her birthday, a very exciting time for her as she’d never really recognised birthdays up until the last couple of years.

And I was shortlisted in the Brilliance in Blogging awards, something which I felt very humbled about. I don’t go by stats and traffic and blog for the enjoyment and awareness-raising. The spam and nasty comments are a downside but there’s a delete button for a reason.

Two days later, everything changed.

I wasn’t a finalist in the awards. I felt bitterly disappointed but felt I’d let everyone down who may have voted, who may read my blog, I felt I’d let down my children. T, in particular, was very proud of me and wondered what a trophy would look like, he decided it would be fingers tapping on a phone screen – bless him!

I have to admit that I cried and felt a bit sorry for myself, that I wasn’t doing it “right”, that I wasn’t in the blogging cliche that seems to exist. I felt like the chubby girl chosen last in PE, except I wasn’t chosen.

I felt sad that I wouldn’t be attending the ceremony, I hadn’t been organised enough to get a ticket to BritMums Live and it was too late.

Lovely Kate, who writes for BritMums ran a competition to give away a ticket and I decided to enter, fingers crossing.

Another day later and my world as I know it, turned upside down, back to front and inside out.

Suddenly the ceremony didn’t matter anymore, the thought that I wouldn’t be going paled into insignificance.

My mum, who’d been showing the symptoms for years, was diagnosed with kidney cancer and neither radiotherapy, chemotherapy or an operation were an option. The consultants were not prepared to perform a high-risk operation.

Focuses change when news like this reaches your family, they have to.

I definitely won’t be going anywhere far away from a hospital in the next few days.

Last week, in a dramatic u-turn, they agreed to operate on my mum, she (assuming there is a bed) has the very high-risk operation tomorrow.

There are very mixed feelings going around my head, this operation will either prolong her life or end it suddenly tomorrow, there are no guarantees with anything.

I could be doing the school run later and be hit by a bus – I sincerely hope not! – but in this situation, everyone that needs to know is aware of tomorrow. She’s spoken to and told who she wants to tell, she’s seen who she wants to see.

It will be a case of waiting and hoping.

Obviously had I been a finalist in the Brilliance in Blogging awards, I would have had a decision to make as to whether I attended – it would have been a no-brainer, I wouldn’t have.

So I’m grateful that the decision was made for me, both by the BritMums judges and Kate, her ticket went to a very deserving mummy blogger.

Next year though, I’ll be there with bells on! I just need to get through the next few days/weeks/months first.

Fingers tightly crossed.



10 thoughts on “It wasn’t meant to be …

  1. Oh love I am so sorry you are going through this. And I wish I could wave a magic wand and make it all OK. I know the blogging awards are at the back of your mind now – but just wanted to say you never let anyone down. I know how it feels to think you’re not in the “in-crowd”. Just do your thing, and good things will come to you.
    Hope all goes OK for your mum and your family. It’s a terrible time, and I can say I’ve been through the pain of watching someone I love fight cancer. I will be thinking of you and praying for you and your mum.
    Big hugs xxx

  2. Oh gosh I’m so sorry to hear all of this. Firstly the turmoil you went through over the BIBs, although I can imagine how and why you felt like that. So sorry to hear about your mum but is there a chink of light now they are willing to operate? You’re in the best place – supporting and being alongside her. Makes Britmums and the Bibs seem so pointless doesn’t it? We will be thinking of you x

    • Thanks so much Suzanne, I’m glad any decisions were already made for me (if you know what I mean). Will see what tomorrow brings and you’re right, it is positive that they have u-turned x

  3. I’m so sorry your family are going though such a difficult time, I sincerely hope your mothers surgery is a success.
    Regarding the awards, you haven’t let anyone down, it’s an amazing accomplishment to have been short listed, your dedicated readers and you family are proud of you, award or not.

  4. Really hope all goes well for your mum. There’s always next year for the awards, and they’ll wait for you. We only have one mum. (mine’s going through similar at the mo, with inoperable cancer in the brain that radiotherapy’s done nothing for, and now starting chemo for lung/stomach – just hoping it works for my mum, and that your mum gets the miracle result too).

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